Monday, July 27, 2009

Fit Pregnancy's top 20 reasons you’ll miss about being pregnant - and my thoughts on each.

I just read an article on FitPregnancy.com, and thought I'd comment on their list of the top 20 reasons you'll miss about being pregnant. I've cut the article down a bit in some spots. The original is here: http://www.fitpregnancy.com/yourpregnancy/sex_relationships/20-reasons-youll-miss-being-pregnant-40728997.html?page=1


1) having a secret Before anything shows on the outside, you know something's happening on the inside. For the first few months you might look like your same old self, but you know something that no one else does.

Agreed. And knowing the sex when everyone's guessing is an even bigger fun secret! Even though I didn't want to know and won't get that big surprise in the delivery room, I have to admit that it's fun listening while everyone makes their predictions based on my belly.

2) smiles from total strangers Once you start showing, you might be surprised at what a friendly place the world has become. You've joined the sorority, sister, and your stunning silhouette brings smiles, questions and congratulations.

Agreed – partly. I love the smiles and sweet comments… but I won't miss the "wow, you're so big already!" bullshit.

3) naps In our go-go-go world, there may not be another time in your life when you don't have to feel guilty about sneaking in a 30-minute snooze after lunch. In fact, when you're pregnant, naps are practically prescribed. So slumber away blissfully: Soon enough you'll be sleeping on your baby's schedule — in other words, naps may be the only sleep you'll get.

I do love naps, and I will definitely miss being well rested.

4) that rosy glow The pregnant woman's glow might be more myth than reality. You do get some increased blood circulation, but it generally doesn't show on the face.
But just as we're about to cross this off the list, Lichtman offers another explanation. "I do see wonderful smiles and happiness, and that emotion is translated onto the face." Aha — an inner glow. Even better.

I don't think I have a glow – other than the shine on my face from my over-active oil glands. So I won't miss this. I'd like my old, acne-free skin back.


5) calories, calories, calories Women can eat more during pregnancy because they're eating for two. The exact number of calories will depend on how active you are and what your metabolic rate is. If you play your cards right, you can potentially extend this benefit for another year or so by nursing your baby — you'll need the extra calories to produce all that milk.

I love not really thinking about what I'm eating. I'm eating well and pretty healthy (I've never drank so much milk in my life1), but I don't say no to sweets and bread like I used to. This is the first summer where I haven't been on South Beach in a long time, and man, am I ever loving the fruit.

6) the anticipation There's a certain excitement in looking forward to events — it allows us to extend and savor our enjoyment of them. The anticipation phase is pure enjoyment It's like waiting for Christmas.

Agreed! And along with that, I can't wait for baby's first Christmas, complete with a newly monogrammed stocking and presents under the tree from Santa!

7) indulging your cravings sans guilt It's important for pregnant women to listen to what their bodies want. A woman may be craving a food that is high in a nutrient she really needs.
This is your very own pregnancy, and you get to indulge whatever cravings your hormones concoct. Mangoes? Chocolate chip cookies? Steak? Go for it.

I haven't been having any 'typical' pregnancy cravings, but as I said above, I'm really loving the summer of guilt-free fruit!

8) feeling special The humdrum of daily routine can suck the feeling-specialness out of the best of us. But is there anything more special than creating life? "Making a person!" Nothing humdrum about that.

It is pretty incredible – I mean, I have a tiny human growing INSIDE MY UTERUS!!!

9) being the center of attention Pregnancy may be the last time in a long while that you are the center of attention. Once they have the baby, so many women are so instantly wrapped up in — and overwhelmed by — caring for their infant that they immediately forget the recent experience of being pregnant. Also, the outside world pays attention to you when you're pregnant and to the baby once it's born.

Yes and no. It's great to an extent, but sometimes I'd just like to walk through the halls at work and not have everyone stare at my belly and start speculating about the gender based on how high I'm carrying.

10) the shopping New clothes for you. New clothes for baby. New furniture, new gadgets, new linens. Yellow and green if you don't know, pink or blue if you do. Socks smaller than your pinkie finger, whimsical hats with ears attached. Just remember that you do still have to save for college.

I can't wait to really shop for the little brownie! As soon as we have the house (and Nick signs another contract), let the baby shopping begin!


11) tiny hiccups & big kicks There is simply no substitute for the wonder of feeling your child move inside you. Ultrasounds are wondrous but distant meetings with your unborn child. It's that first squirm in your belly that signals a personal hello.
The first time your baby has the hiccups after she's born will be a sweet yet sad reminder of what you used to feel inside.

I will miss that, for sure. I haven't felt hiccups yet, but I can only imagine how unreal that will be!

12) being taken care of
You're led to the front of the line, the door is cheerily opened for you, and your sweetie even offers to bring you a snack and rub your feet. Isn't this the way life should be? So what if it isn't PC — it sure is fun. Let's face it, after your baby's born, you will be the one carrying the bundle and wiping up messes wherever you go.

Nick definitely enjoys the expectant mother parking more than I do, and I'm pretty self-sufficient overall. But ya, I'll admit that I like getting the special treatment.

13) all that motivation
When pregnant, you're motivated like never before — you watch what you eat, eliminate unhealthful habits, get plenty of rest and stay physically active. "Pregnancy is a good opportunity for a woman to develop a sound nutrition plan and healthy habits for the rest of her life," Kundrat says. Cutting your daily dose of caffeine, eliminating artificial sweeteners and increasing your water intake are all smart moves for baby. If you can stick with them, these better habits will serve you well for years to come.

Eh, I guess.

14) fabulous follicles Some women will get thicker hair during pregnancy and some won't, says Shangold. (Changing hormone levels can synchronize hair growth so it is all in the same phase, meaning more hairs might be on your head at a given time.) Like everything else on the list, enjoy it while it lasts.

I haven't experienced this at all – my hair is exactly the same as it was before – except that now I seem to be growing fine hairs on my belly too, which I will be glad to get rid of!


15) who cares if your clothes fit? This may be the only time in your life when you're supposed to expand like a balloon. But don't use that as an excuse to inflate beyond reason: A steady, gradual and not too extreme weight gain is advised during pregnancy.

Agreed – It was so liberating being in the Bahamas in the maternity bathing suit, knowing that my belly isn't supposed to be flat! But…. I do miss feeling thin, and rolling over in bed easily. And having pajama pants that fit.

16) you're never alone
Of course, you will have your bundle of joy when it's all over and done with. But sharing your body with your child provides an intimacy unmatched by any other relationship.

Um, I guess?

17) a better body image Pregnancy brings countless changes to your body. Paying attention to the nuances of that child growing inside you means you'll feel everything from your breath to your belly with new appreciation. A lot of people are more aware of their bodies during pregnancy. But, some women are not so happy with the way their bodies change. "It would be nice if all pregnant women would think of the pregnant body as being beautiful," she says.

I feel pretty good about myself – until people speculate that I must be almost full-term. Jerks. But otherwise, it's been fun!

18) having pregnancy as an excuse Forgot where you parked? That's OK — you're pregnant. Need to walk slowly? That's OK — you're pregnant. Just want to sit and daydream? Of course you do — you're pregnant. Behaviour that raises eyebrows in "real life" seems universally excused for now.

Funny – YES.

19) the newness of it all When was the last time you were truly surprised? Or experienced something completely new? In this day of Internet information, television, fax and instant everything, there isn't much wonder left in the world. Until you become pregnant, that is. For 40 weeks, almost every day brings something new. In a way, both you and your baby are experiencing a birth.

I am really enjoying this – every week is a new milestone. Everything is new and exciting!

20) taking part in the miracle of life
It sounds like a cliché — until it happens to you. During the course of your pregnancy, it's hard not to marvel at the little bit of destiny growing inside you and follow its progress with acute interest: two cells, then four, then eight. The size of a pea, then a peanut. A heartbeat, fingers, toes. Inside you. Inside you.

Seriously. Yes. How can my uterus grow a person?? Honestly?? That's freaking mental, and it's awesome.

25 weeks - Eggplant

Weekly Pregnancy Journal



How far along: 25 w, 1 d. Holy crap - only 80 days until Mat leave!

Total weight gain: Meh.

Maternity clothes: Yup

Stretch marks: Nope

Sleep: Still hit and miss. I keep getting this cramp up near my ribs, which makes it very difficult to get comfortable on my side

Best moment this week: Um.... I don't know actually. It's been a pretty normal week.

Movement: Lots :) and WTEWYE says I might start feeling hiccups soon because baby's vocal chords are starting to work!

Cravings: Still fruit. And tomato mozzerella salad

Aversions: None

Gender: Everyone's still guessing girl.

Labour Signs: None

Belly Button in or out: In

What I miss: Wearing my rings all day without my fingers swelling up. It's been so humid out.

What I'm looking forward to: Getting our new Ford Escape and our house this week! And my new niece or nephew - we're just waiting!

Weekly Wisdom: Umm.... I don't think I have anything

Symptoms this week: Swelling - mostly in the hands, a little in the feet. And did I mention last week that the acne is back? 'Cuz it is. And I hate it. At least now I'm armed with a great cleanser and zit cream and don't have to suffer with teenager-esque acne quietly.

Milestones: I had to buy some fake wedding rings from Shoppers Drug Mart on Saturday. I hate the thought of not wearing my rings, so this'll have to do until the humidity goes the hell away. Ooh, and a work-milestone: my job has officially been posted and they're starting to recruit to fill the contract!


Let your spouse put an ear to your belly -- he might be able to pick up baby's heartbeat (no stethoscope required). Inside the womb, the formation of tiny capillaries is giving baby a healthy pink glow. Baby's also soaking up your antibodies, getting the immune system ready for life outside the womb. Eyes are forming, and baby will soon perfect the blink -- perfect for batting those freshly grown lashes.

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Sausage fingers

The days of wearing my wedding rings are numbered, it seems. It's humid out today and I'm all swollen. I feel like a house today - my bellly feels huge and my legs feel cumbersome. It feels muggy even in the office, and normally it's so bloody cold that we're bundled up all summer.
 
My fingers have gotten a little swollen over the past week, especially on the weekend, but nothing really major during work hours because it's so cold in here. But today, I think I have to actually take my rings off and put them in my purse or something. It sucks. If I have to stop wearing them, I'll probably wear my grandma's rings since they're quite a big bigger. At least then I wouldn't look like the single pregnant girl and my fingers wouldn't feel so naked. But still... I don't want to be without my wedding rings. I love them.
 
So I've spent the first half of the summer complaining about the lack of summer weather... and now I wished I would have just shut up already and enjoyed the lack of humidity, even though it meant I had to wear sweaters all the time.
 
Be careful what you wish for...
 
 

Monday, July 20, 2009

Oh, those beautiful little pink caplets....

Each week when I fill in the "What I Miss" field, I think of the obvious things - like sleeping, and wine, and not feeling like a beached whale every time I lay down.
 
But one thing I haven't given its due credit is how much I miss PEPTO BISMOL. Man, what I wouldn't give for one of those beautiful little pink caplets that cure everything....
 
Especially now that I have the diet of a very oversized (and not very nimble) fruit bat, I would LOVE to take just one. Even a half of one. My digestive tract would love me for it.  And my feet would thank me - because I spend a good portion of every day walking back and forth to the washroom, hoping to find it empty (because ladies just don't do that kind of thing when there's someone else in there - Nick does not get this). I understand, though, that our little brownie would likely not thank me for taking the Pepto... But man oh man... I miss the convenience of taking those perfect little pills and feeling fabulous no matter what I ate.

24 weeks - still a papaya


Weekly Pregnancy Journal

How far along: 24 w, 1 d

Total weight gain/loss: Meh. Lots, obviously.

Maternity clothes: Yup, but I've been curbing my online shopping habit these days. Good for me ;)

Stretch marks: Not yet, which is surprising.

Sleep: Still hit and miss

Best moment this week: Hearing that my blood pressure is normal, so the off & on swelling in my hands and feet is nothing to worry about.

Movement: All the time! Especially after I eat and after 9 p.m.

Cravings: Fruit. And all of a sudden, Nick likes fruit too (this is honestly a first) so we've been sharing grapes in bed. :)

Aversions: None

Gender: Everyone's still guessing girl. Except one girl at work. And I know who's right and who's wrong ;)

Labour Signs: None

Belly Button in or out: In

What I miss: Refreshing beverages. NOT having people stare at my tummy all the time! Honestly, it's getting annoying. I had someone at work on Friday say she thought I was ready to pop. Thanks. I have 4 months left. That's awesome. Seriously people. I have no torso - where the heck else can the baby go but out?

What I'm looking forward to: Our house! We get possession next Friday!

Weekly Wisdom: Hold your tongue. It's not worth telling people off when they say rude things (like 'wow! I thought you were farther along than that!' piss off.)

Symptoms this week: Some swelling, off and on. Nick went to hold my hand on the weekend and he said it was like he was holding someone else's hand because my fingers were puffy. Grand. And we were lying in bed and he flung his leg over my hip and said "wow, your hips are getting wider, eh?". Honestly. NEVER say that to a pregnant woman. It's true, it's necessary, it's normal, BUT SHE DOES NOT WANT TO KNOW THAT YOU'VE NOTICED.
Oh, and I haven't mentioned yet that it appears the acne is back. Superfantastic.

Milestones: Nothing major this week.

Friday, July 17, 2009

Doctor's appointment

We went to see my OB this afternoon, and all is well. She took my blood pressure and said it was normal (woo!), which means that the swelling I've been having off and on isn't a big deal. She just said to keep my feet up and drink a lot of water. She was surprised by how big my belly has gotten since the last time she saw me - it really has grown. I feel fine when I'm standing up, but as soon as I lay down, I feel like I'm being pinned down by the weight of my belly. I'm still rocking heels though ;)

She wants me to go for a gestational diabetes test, which I know is standard but still makes me nervous. I hope I don't have that - because man am I ever enjoying sugar. I'm a fruit-aholic these days (I'd be quite content with having a fruit salad for lunch and nothing else). I hope everything's fine, but I still worry. I have to go for that in 2 weeks so she has the results for our next appointment, 2 weeks later.

We listened to the baby's heartbeat - 144, which is normal. And she felt my belly to find the top of my uterus - it's up so high now! Last time it was around my belly button, and now it's halfway between my belly button and my rib cage! But she said there's lots of room for the baby to grow still, which makes sense since I still only feel the kicks and punches bellow the belly button.

And that's really about it. A quick appointment, but reassuring to know that everything's good.

Monday, July 13, 2009

23 Weeks - still a Papaya

Weekly Pregnancy Journal

How far along: 23 w, 1 d

Total weight gain/loss: ?

Maternity clothes: Yup, and Nick's sister just passed along some new shirts. They're pretty big on me still, but I'm sure at this rate that I'll grow into them.

Stretch marks: Not yet

Sleep: I miss normal sleep. A lot.

Best moment this week: Picking out paint colours for the new house (and nursery!) with my mom yesterday

Movement: Yup. Nick finally felt it this week! Only a couple of times throughout the week, despite how many times I said "quick! put your hand here!" But last night, the baby was SUPER active when I was lying in bed and over the course of 5 minutes he felt it 4 times, loud and clear. It was awesome :)

Cravings: Still sour, though I'm not sure it's really a 'pregnancy craving'. I've always liked sour things, I'm just in a 'sour foods' kind of mood these days.

Aversions: None

Gender: Everyone still thinks we don't know

Labour Signs: Nope.

Belly Button in or out: In, for now.

What I miss: Sleeping comfortably

What I'm looking forward to: The house! And getting our new Ford Escape that we impulse-bought on Friday night! (We had been looking at sedans this whole time, and on Friday decided on the SUV)

Weekly Wisdom: Try not to worry that my SIL, who is 2 weeks from her due date, is about the same size as me now.... Sigh.

Symptoms this week: Cankles. I don't always have them, but I definitely swell up when I've been on my feet all day.

Milestones: Nothing new this week

Thursday, July 9, 2009

Calf + Ankle =

Cankles.

I now have cankles.

Cankle: "An obese or otherwise swollen ankle that blends into the calf without clear demarcation"

Mine aren't obese (thank goodness) but they definitely swell up now, which is new. I'm not even in the 3rd trimester yet. Awesome.

I was talking to my mom about it the other night and she said she had cankles from around 4.5 - 6 months and then it magically went away. I'm praying it's genetic.

I went out yesterday to Winners with the intention of buying some sensible flats to combat the swelling feet... and came home with these instead, and they're totally worth it:


Sensible? No. Cheap? Definitely not. But HOT? Heck Yes!

I wore them with pride today, in all my 5 month pregnant glory.

After work today, I went to Payless and picked out some boring sensible shoes, which I will wear begrudgingly with a snarl on my face.













(I bought the round-toe ones in eggshell white)

Monday, July 6, 2009

Everybody Dance!

Today, it seems, I'm hosting some kind of rave in my ute. A rave with only one raver, but a rave nonetheless.

Dance dance dance.... on the left hand side. Dance dance dance.... around the belly button. Dance dance dance... back to the left. All day, from about 7 a.m. until forever. With maybe an hour here and there where the baby is likely absorbing some nutrients through the delicious amniotic fluid (which today would taste like the chocolate chip pancakes I had for breakfast along with meatloaf for lunch), downloading some new tunes to the internal iPod, and mentally choreographing some new moves so that there can be much more dancing. Dance dance dance.

Hope you're having fun in there, little one! The rest of us out here (meaning me) are working like suckers on a cloudy Monday.

22 weeks - Papaya

Weekly Pregnancy Journal


How far along: 22 w, 1 d

Total weight gain/loss: ?

Maternity clothes: Yup

Stretch marks: Not yet

Sleep: Meh. I'm still looking for a comfortable position.

Best moment this week: Nick finally felt the baby kick last night!

Movement: Yup :) And Nick *finally* felt it!

Cravings: Sour anything. I've been drinking a lot of water with lime juice in it.

Aversions: None

Gender: It's a.... baby :)

Labour Signs: Nope.

Belly Button in or out: In

What I miss: Sleeping on my back. Not feeling like my body is holding me back - that's new. I was packing last night and found it really hard to bend to label the boxes whereas last week it was no problem. And we went to WalMart (ugh) yesterday and about 3/4 of the way through the shopping, my feet just started killing me.

What I'm looking forward to: The house!

Weekly Wisdom: Stop eating so much damn salt!

Symptoms this week: Nothing major.

Milestones: I hit three new milestones this week: First, Nick felt the baby kick! Woooo! The other two aren't so pleasant. I Peezed this week - the combo sneeze + a little pee. It happened twice, so I'm thinking it wasn't just a fluke. And third, my feet have started swelling, and that doesn't make me happy. I love my shoes.





Watch what you say -- baby is now able to hear outside noise from down in the womb. Studies show that baby finds gentle music and your own voice most soothing. Nipples are starting to sprout, and that little face is fully formed. And, baby's starting to settle into sleep cycles, snoozing about 12 to 14 hours a day. It shouldn't be hard to figure out when -- just pay attention to those kicks as they start and stop.

Thursday, July 2, 2009

Rounding up to 5

The fourth month has felt like it has gone on for freaking ever. I'm now rounding up, saying I'm around 5 months. I don't know why, but it feels like I've been 4 1/2 months pregnant for about a year. I guess that Tuesday officially marks 5 months, since on Tuesday I officially have 4 months remaining until my due date. Still, it's just easier to count in weeks. I wish I could tell people I'm 21 weeks and have them actually understand that in weeks without asking how many months that is. (though in fairness, I've never measured my life in weeks before either, and I was one of those people who asked all my pregnant friends how many months they were).

So now that I'm around 5 months pregnant, I feel like I'm allowed to look as pregnant as I do - and I actually feel pretty cute. I have a little round belly and I love it :) And I'm addicted to maternity dresses. I feel super duper cute in them.

Yesterday, I was over at my Sister- and Brother-in-Law's house, and my BIL earned himself some serious brownie points. I hadn't seen him in a few weeks and he looked down at my belly, smiled and was surprised by how it all of a sudden looks pregnant, not just round.

He asked how far along I am now, and I said "about 5 months". He said, "Wow! You look great!" I could have kissed him. He went on to say, "You know how a lot of pregnant women put on weight all over - through their face and arms and stuff - well, you haven't at all! You look exactly the same!" honestly, that made my day more than the hotdog I had at the movie theatre, or the 2 hours of mindless entertainment of robots turning into vehicles that was the new Transformers movie. That was exactly what I wanted to hear. I did put on weight in my face (and boobs!), but that happened right at the very beginning, so for the last 3 1/2 - 4 months, I haven't really noticed a big change except in my belly.